No, and I see your point. Sorry for forgetting that we’re stronger together. I’m making a stand right now and saying Nutomic is a fake socialist who values power over fairness, and his erasure of indigenous communism is deeply racist. He should also be fired for his denial of genocide.

I want the Lemmy project to stop giving money to Nutomic. I think they should hire a trans developer instead. I mean, Lemmy is written in Rust, which is the gayest programming language, so it should be easy to find one.

I’m deliberately choosing not to make this about my own views on anarchy vs fake authoritarian socialism, because I want to find common ground with the Lemmy development team in terms of agreeing that transphobia has no place in any version of leftism and no place on Lemmy

The Lemmy devs aren’t leftists. I wish they were

Well this would give more options to the weirdos who do want to give money to tankie scum like the Lemmy devs

All posts are political

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I think you might be a TERF because you think I must either be femme presenting or a man.

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Why did you say men are trash at me? Do you think I’m a man? Are you a TERF?

I know a woman who accused her girlfriend of abuse and cut contact with her. The one who was accused told all of us she was sorry, she didn’t realise she was abusive, and she wanted to know how she did it, so she could work on improving as a person. A few of us asked the accuser how she was abused, and… Nothing. She can’t say. I don’t know if she can’t or doesn’t want to or both, but that accusation fucked with that girl and gave her PTSD. And I’m never again going to treat that ‘victim’ like I believe her. Too many people doing that.

Are you talking about “just believing women”, or are you talking about someone who has way more evidence against them than just what women say?

Because I think you’re replying to someone who’s talking about “just believing women”

Trump isn’t really relevant to the issue of “just believing women”, because there’s way more evidence that Trump is a rapist than just what his victims said. So I don’t see why you can justify changing the subject back to Trump.

I think you forgot that gay women exist. I really hate how many people assume the issue of sexual abuse allegations is about men vs women. That’s such a homophobic bias. There are women who falsely accuse women of sexual abuse. Usually gay women. And feminism doesn’t mean harassing gay women who’ve been a victim of DARVO. Standing with gay women who’ve been abused doesn’t make me or anyone else a misogynist, contrary to your weird ass claims.

Believing women means intiating proper procedures, starting investigations, and gathering the facts and evidence, impartially and without prejudice.

The average person isn’t smart enough to understand this, and if told to “just believe women”, will harass DARVO victims.

The only effective solution to the issue of believing survivors is to teach the general public critical thinking and evidence evaluation skills.

Surely there’s a middle ground in between locking people up for a false accusation and harassing victims into committing suicide. Like, maybe, some form of due process

Alright I’m gonna drop a hot take: if a woman both has been sexually assaulted, and has been falsely accused of sexual assault, and she still believes in unconditionally believing victims, then she deserves to be imprisoned for those false allegations. Because nothing short of that is going to teach her that people are innocent until proven guilty, and that’s her own standard she’s being held to.

Also everyone in this thread saying that women can’t be accused of sexual assault by women is a homophobe. Sorry I don’t make the rules, and the rules say erasure is intolerance.

Transparency on Lemmy has some problems. Bans aren’t attached to any message, so if you ban someone for the reason “This user is a Nazi pedophile who likes Coldplay”, most users will just believe that. Comment removals work well, but bans can go against transparency by platforming lies from authority figures.

I was arguing with someone who was telling me it’s okay to use slurs

I was arguing with a tankie who was defending the use of an ableist slur. I told them fine, whatever, call me a f-----. I was making a point about how they would call mentally ill people slurs, but wouldn’t do the same to me. Implying I thought they were a bigot, and they’d attack me too if there were as few consequences. They weren’t a good person, they were just being civil according to social norms. I don’t care about civility, I care about meaning what you say. Practicing what you preach. F----- is how I feel tankies see me, on a certain level. Stalin said being gay is bourgeois decadence. He put us in gulags. I don’t feel safe around Stalin worshippers, and when they attack other minorities, I feel aware of that. I see how their respect is an act.

I’d rather be called a f----- than have them insist they’re my allies. And it took a lot of self control just now to delete those five letters and turn them into dashes. I want to talk openly about how I feel seen by those people. This pretense, not using the words that match how I feel I’m seen, it feels like the same thing. Having to practice civility around people who would lynch me if Dear Leader told them to. I’d prefer slurs.