It’ll be awkward at the start, but a good therapist is primarily someone that listens without judgement and after a time, will offer suggestions on how you can address the issues bothering you.

They’re not generally cold and calculating, that stereotype is decades out of style.

What you’ll find is a space you can talk… and before you go in, ask YOURSELF what your end goals for the therapy are and make a list of the points and ask the therapist if they can be realisitcally achieved, but don’t expect a direct answer for that at first. The therapist needs to get to know you and your issues a bit first.

Ultimately, all of it will be down to you, and no one else.

A good therapist - be it a psychiatrist or psychologist (I prefer the latter) will get you to see what is holding you back and center you ON you… not in a narcissistic way, but see the whole person - good and bad - and learn to work to open yourself to change.

Remember, it will take some time, and the changes a therapist makes are in getting you to see your own strengths and weaknesses and how to avoid the pitfalls that people often put up in front of themselves when trying to better their lives.

Guilt, trauma, self-doubt… that shit is real and the best therapy gets you to see where the baggage lies and to let it go.

The therapist you find may be awesome and you click instantly or they might not. If not, don’t give up, move on to another person as every therapist is different and has different approaches to getting you to open your head to yourself.

I was in counselling for years as a teenager and it really helped me cut through my own insecurities and stop me doubting myself and got me the courage to leave home when I was 18 - with rocket boosters on, even though it sucked BIG TIME for years afterwards. (oh how it did!) It was all on me and I turned out ok in the end.

Therapy is a process, the main thing is to not bullshit yourself about any given situation, no matter what.

As to privacy, HIPPA laws still apply, and there is also nothing stopping you from asking about how robust their privacy controls on patients data are. Ask for paper copies of the records for yourself, that way you can have them accessible at a later date w/o having delays as the older records are fetched, if you need them. You DO have that right.

Am married hen of 33 years…

There are no downsides whatsoever!

If you two are in the relationship for the long haul, keeping the sex fun and interesting is perfect. This is how relationships last. No hangups, no insecurity (sounds like you’re doing just fine with that…) just fuck each other silly into the mattress, the sofa, the kitchen table… wherever!

It’s not about what you’ve got, it’s about what you do with it and YES, enhancements are totally fine. Go be the sex-beast you are and have fun!

Mad props to you kid!

I’ll find a nice planet and build a base in Creative Mode in No Man’s Sky.

Have a save file editor for my build game, so I don’t have to grind to get the fancy parts and I can just relax and settle in and let my imagination fly.

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I finally am allowing myself to take some down time for my own sanity. It’s weird how slowly a work ethic can take over your mindset and the next thing you know, you’re putting in 24- 25 days in a row of work and are burnt out… Rather than be frizzle-fried by Christmas, I decided to stop now and actually enjoy the holiday. This is a first, and it’s been a long time - too long - that I’ve allowed myself to relax.

You are correct.

It is actually ignore-ance, with the removal of the e at the end of Ignore to form a new word…

To ignore something is a willful action of deliberate inattention.

…but what stops the judges from passing an unjust law?..

Well, ostensibly it’s congress that passes the laws and the courts may say how they are interpreted or implemented.

If the courts are interpreting the laws against what the authors of the law intended, it is up to congress to write laws that are better and pass constitutional muster without question…

We’re at the point we are because of poorly written laws that have led to loopholes and poor implementation being taken advantage of.

Oh yeah… I mentioned this one a few days ago, as my husband’s co-workers brought it up…

People can be that reactionary when they don’t know shit.

Dude, he didn’t care and doesn’t care about the United States. He’s on track to become a triilionaire and that is all that matters to cretins like him.

Hmmmm. Wonky events like this are part of why I’m glad I’ve always kept plain text hard copies of every key and password I’ve used.

Shit’s a nightmare when you get shut out of your stuff…

Good on you that you sorted it all.

Ohhh, boy, this is going to go over well with the Jewish and black servicemen and women, won’t it?

Yeah, though mine doesn’t flicker as fast - it kinda moves in slow waves.

Hmmm. Interesting…

I just went through and checked out the site and hit a bunch of the links… Honestly, with the nature of the data, there really is no reason to have more than the basics. Also, think of what Berkshire Hathaway is about and as far as maximizing everything that they can for the stake and stock-holders, it makes sense. Focus on the investment essentials, not the window dressing online.

I wish more businesses were oriented this way.

Huh… Who’d have thought New Hampshire would take the top spot? God knows I wouldn’t…(and I’m a native born resident)

I really have no interest in AI. God knows, I can chat with a wall, a tree, a rock or even the air often enough on my own.

Sometimes I even surprise myself with the answers I get.

Ah! Okay. Thanks for the links.

Nice lens on that second video.

Mom’s sorta right, but also not… If you blast the headphones, yeah, of course it’ll eventually screw your hearing. If you leave them at a level, where you’re able to hear the outside world around you, you’l be fine.

That is SO glorious.

I’ve been in the trades since 1980, and I won’t have a house built after the mid-80’s. That’s when the last of the mature timber lumber supply ran out. Now homes are built with selectively bred loblolly pine that gets 30 years worth of growth in 20 and it’s light like balsa. It’s garbage and part of why so many developments and new homes put up since the mid-90’s are now falling apart. I see SO much sheetrock slips, cracks, nail pops and settling it’s scary.

Oh, starting on a hill is absolute shit if you’re not good wth a clutch.

The hardest I ever drove was a '72 VW Super Beetle and it would roll backwards the millisecond I took my foot off the brake… You couldn’t slip the clutch and have it grab fast enough. Did learn how to heel-toe the clutch and brake on that and the last year I had it, got so good with shifting by ear, I seldom used the clutch once the car was rolling. That was cool. Could downshift w/o the clutch as well. It was a 4-speed so it had a wider wheel speed/motor speed range to play with in each gear.

Was almost as good with the no-clutch shifting on my '82 Celica (I really, really loved that car… rear wheel drive so it was drift city before I even knew that was a thing… and you BET I did… Sport Rally 5 transmission for the WIN!)

Now I’m on my third Impreza and they have such grabby clutches, tight transmissions and small shift windows for no-clutch, that I’ve never really made inroads with it.

I still drive like a maniac however.