• Ubettawerk@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    I’m certain that I am some degree of polyamorous. But I’m in a 10-year monogamous relationship and feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place

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        1 year ago

        If you don’t mind, how did you two even start that conversation? I’m afraid to bring it up because I know the knee-jerk reaction will probably be a lot of hurt feelings and misunderstandings

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          1 year ago

          She brought it up first. Key thing is being open and honest and setting clear boundaries that both people need to follow. Trust is the biggest thing to keeping things good.

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      1 year ago

      This was exactly me three years ago. We ended up talking it out and, while things were a bit rocky at first as we felt things out, now I have 3 partners and my original partner has a boyfriend.

      My advice is to be open and honest (a big requirement of polyamory), talk things out, and take it SLOW. My biggest mistakes were from jumping into things far too quickly.