• B4tid0@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      Yup. When I mention it , I was screamed at and told “I should mind my own business” , “He is an adult he knows what he is doing” and “who am I do judge other people” I am not proud of THAT situation. My family is fucked but we are ALL welcome at Christmas dinner, I go for the free meal and to hug my grandma and leave right after. Apparently the girlfriend’s family is very close to my cousin’s mother , I don’t know them . Is all messed up (¯―¯٥)

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          10 months ago

          It’s not really one of those situations where knowing what you’re doing makes anything any better, is it

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        He knows what he’s doing, but does she know what he’s doing?

        He probably researched the local law on the issue, has a plan in case he’s questioned by some cop, and carries a card in his wallet with an overview of the applicable laws printed on it.

        Yeah, any family that defends this guy deserves to be walked out on.

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          I mentioned the law first time I heard of it , one of the uncle’s said “who’s is going to tell? Will you?” And oh boy did that freak me out. This year before leaving my grandma asked me “why are you going against family?” All I said is that I wasn’t trying to have a go at nobody that I was sorry. I hugged her and left. It is all very bitter and sad. I can’t watch.

          With some luck I am hopefully leaving town sometime next year. I don’t want to be around if this goes bad and the police is involve, they will probably think it was me if I am around for that. I don’t understand what they are all thinking , and I frankly don’t want to.

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        10 months ago

        Well, good for you to show up for your grandma. 👍🏻 That’s what matters.