She gained some weight but she is not fat at all!
Tell her the truth (as I understand it you don’t think she’s fat), but also ask why she’s asking in the first place. Offer some support if she wants to lose some weight.
I think open and honest discussion is the best approach here because now you’re jus guessing what the real issue is.
I think it’s due to comments from people. She was underweight before because she hardly ate anything. She’s now much better than before but people keep mentioning how she changed. It’s really dumb when people keep commenting about your appearance, but I gets to her sometimes. The same people were telling her she needs to gain weight before. ( we are in a developing country where these comments are sadly so normalized)
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Thank you for a serious answer. I would love it if a man did this for me after I expressed dislike about my appearance.
“You callin my girl fat you piece of shit?!”
You can’t win this one.
It’s over OP, she has the high ground.
After having some nice intimate time, during the quiet afterglow, ask her how her self esteem has been lately. Maybe she’s feeling down and wants to talk about it.
Once her feelings are in the open it will be easier to feel out a solution.
“Is that what we’re gonna do today, we gonna fight?”
Might as well ask Lemmy how to pass the Kobayashi Maru test, while you’re at it.
“I don’t think so but if you want us to eat healthier and get more exercise I’m game”
He said in his post she has put on weight. Why lie when there are many other not lying answers that are much better?
She was underweight before because she hardly ate anything. She’s way better now. But some people comment on her change of weight because they compare it to how she was before.
It’s a trap. There is no good answer. You need to turn around and walk until you pass out. It’s over.