I legitimately find it difficult to long term stay annoyed with people who have wronged me. I have close friends and family telling me how ridiculous it is I’m still in touch and friendly with people I used to consider friends but briefly cut them out after they treated me horribly. I can see the logic and feel as though I SHOULD hate certain people for how they’ve been in the past but I just don’t feel any anger or resentment and am quite happy to just forget the past. Is this weird and/or unhealthy?

  • TheDoctorDonna@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    It’s not the not holding a grudge that is unhealthy, it is the not holding people accountable that’s unhealthy. You deserve to be treated with respect and you aren’t respecting yourself if you are allowing people to harm you and then continuing on like nothing happened. If you love or respect someone you should should hold them accountable for their actions so they can learn and grow as a human.