A person had a medical emergency, it sucks, but to treat them like they did something purposefully wrong, or that they should feel ashamed, is not just pointlessly mean, it’s ableist, too.
I don’t know if you’re chiding me or not, but in case you are: I quite literally put myself in their shoes in the post you’re responding to.
And for the record, without going into the horrifying details, I lived a very similar situation at a really nice hotel on a work trip. I had the luck of being alone and able to clean it up on my own without anyone noticing but for that 45 minutes where I frantically ran to a 7/11 to buy paper towels and hand sanitizer as a stand-in for proper cleaning product and then frantically cleaned it up like MacGuyver was just handed a single thread and a thimble to diffuse a bomb, I dreaded more than anything that someone would see before I had a chance to take care of it.
I agree that it would be cruel to treat that person any differently because they had an unavoidable accident that caused all this, but people suck. And even if everyone was super understanding, I’d still be absolutely mortified as the person who did it.
Regardless, I know someone with IBS, and yes they constantly are embarrassed by their incontinence.
This person wasn’t “treating” them differently, they were exhibiting empathy.
You should probably learn how to tell before jumping to conclusions. My advice would be to read a book, or anything that wasn’t written on an online forum.
A person had a medical emergency, it sucks, but to treat them like they did something purposefully wrong, or that they should feel ashamed, is not just pointlessly mean, it’s ableist, too.
I don’t know if you’re chiding me or not, but in case you are: I quite literally put myself in their shoes in the post you’re responding to.
And for the record, without going into the horrifying details, I lived a very similar situation at a really nice hotel on a work trip. I had the luck of being alone and able to clean it up on my own without anyone noticing but for that 45 minutes where I frantically ran to a 7/11 to buy paper towels and hand sanitizer as a stand-in for proper cleaning product and then frantically cleaned it up like MacGuyver was just handed a single thread and a thimble to diffuse a bomb, I dreaded more than anything that someone would see before I had a chance to take care of it.
I agree that it would be cruel to treat that person any differently because they had an unavoidable accident that caused all this, but people suck. And even if everyone was super understanding, I’d still be absolutely mortified as the person who did it.
Do you have IBS?
Regardless, I know someone with IBS, and yes they constantly are embarrassed by their incontinence.
This person wasn’t “treating” them differently, they were exhibiting empathy.
You should probably learn how to tell before jumping to conclusions. My advice would be to read a book, or anything that wasn’t written on an online forum.
And people are going to do it. Surprise!