My view is that there are shades of gray between kissing family and kissing with the intent to have sex. To me there is distinction between a kiss shared during a date and one that is shared as you’re stumbling towards a bed with a partner. One is an “I love you” kiss (romantic) and the other is “let’s fuck now” (sexual).
I’m ace. Kissing and some cuddling makes me very uncomfortable, because it often leads to sex. There have been times that I thought I was sharing a sweet kiss with someone and suddenly they’re trying to slide hands under my clothes. So in my mind that was a romantic kiss, but to the other person it was sexual. This is why it’s so important for people like me to fully discuss things before we start dating someone.
There are different types of ace, you’ll see some aces say they are sex-favorable. That means they don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone, but they will engage in sex. On the opposite side of the spectrum is sex-repulsed. That’s me, I feel absolutely disgusted by sex.
I don’t really like yoga, personally. I do love stretching, and have some favorites that I’ll do throughout a day. But sitting in a stretch and being “mindful” just irritates my mind, in the same way that meditation does. I have hEDS so stretching is more for keeping my muscles limber, and to get some blood flowing, than it is for my ligaments or joints anyway
Yeah, this is an annoying bug. I first assumed it is because I switched to beta for the piefed integration. But it’s still present even after the latest update
Someone explain the math to me, what is the “lunatic left con” that started 8 years ago?
You just reminded me that my therapist sent me a mood wheel, too. I ended up ignoring it because it was color coded lol.
But in that same packet she sent me some grounding techniques to try, and that’s actually been really useful for me to pull out of a meltdown. Box breathing is my favorite one, but seriously there’s so many to try
Oh hey, I was in a similar boat. I was such a big fan of Skillet that I got them to sign a skillet at one of those Christian music festivals. I listened to them again recently, those lyrics are definitely propaganda.
Maybe stop trying to use words. Use colors or textures, make a little posterboard and work through what looks or feels right in her head. Meaning, if dark blue means she’s scared, or if green means she’s frustrated that’s okay. Don’t just go with red= angry if that didn’t feels right for her. Let her use as many colors or textures as she needs to get her point across.
It’s also really important to include what she wants from you on this board. Like, just shut up for an hour, or hold her, or go to the store and get her favorite soda. This is just to help her build trust that she can have some control in an uncomfortable situation. Right now she might not really have that, and may be why she’s landed on avoidance
Use it while physically together, but also take a picture so a screenshot can be shared with little edits over what she’s associated with her feelings.
When I’m overstimulated by emotions I have an internal meltdown that can graduate to external if I’m being pushed. I absolutely can’t think of words in that state, and often I’m afraid to even express myself in those moments.
Green is in the northwest corner of Wisconsin.
Yellow is honestly a terrible color choice for this map, because the pronunciation isn’t truly regional. I think it’s clustered along the edges of a few different red areas, mostly on the east coast and some Southern areas.
I actually think the author’s note about it being a merging of pronunciation makes sense, because I was raised in a transitional Southern dialect but my parents both have an east Midland dialect
Yes. It’s not very common and seems to occur where regional differences merge.
Crayon: crown
Caramel: CAR-mul
Pecan: peh-CAWN
I absolutely hate my side-by-side. Can’t fit a frozen pizza, the veggie drawers can barely hold a few days worth of vegetables. Had to move my water pitcher to a shelf because the door shelves are so small, but that also meant taking a shelf out of the fridge.
I’m getting the same style you have, and I’m super excited lol
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Maybe. I think I stopped watching after the social credit episode in the first season. Maybe I’ll check it out again if I ever have another reason to get Hulu.
Thanks ^^
The Orville.
I’m sorry! I’m a trekkie so I really wanted to love it. I can’t stand Seth McFarlane, though, and apparently it isn’t just his animated shows like Family Guy or American Dad that I hate.
I play Stardew Valley sometimes, but it’s not as fun as the pc version.
I’ve had Backpack Brawl for a while, and Balatro too. Most other games I don’t play for longer than a month or so. I did play Super Snail for a long time because I liked my clubmates, but the bird update killed it for me lol
My grandparents had a cat named Pussy. My grandma was so upset when I told her what that was slang for
I have a friend with six cats, and a mice problem. I had actually never seen a mouse indoors until I was visiting them one day lol
My boy cat has always given me very affectionate, but forceful, cuddles under my chin, especially when scared. Which reminds me that my old lady cat always buries her face in my elbow when she’s scared.
So, I’ll just have to pick up every cat and see who trusts me enough to use me as a blindfold lol