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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Whilst i dont agree with them that this is an anxiety attack (although it does sound like it’s potentially related to anxiety or nerves) i dont think it’s fair to put them down for “playing psychic doctor” as you put it.

    OP came to lemmy to ask for people to help them determine the cause of this problem. They are asking people to, at least in some way, “play doctor”

    I k ow there is little information to go on but for all.we know the person your replied to might actually be a doctor and GPs do telephone appoi tments where you tell them your symptoms and they diagnose over the phone.

    This isn’t a far stretch from that. I just think a lot of assumptions have been made here, and therefore, you aren’t much better than the “doctor” you are responding to.

    (Having said all that, they blew a gasket whe you called them out, so perhaps they are a little too sensitive to be someone who needs composure, like a doctor)


  • I was under the impression that this is a misconception about the songs meaning.

    At the time women would be expected to say no outright and go home. To say they have to leave, instead of having autonomy and being promiscuous.

    So in the song the woman wants to stay but is following the societal expectation to say they need to leave and the man is giving her all the excuses she could use to explain why she didnt leave, so people wouldnt suspect her of staying over to have sex.

    These days that expectation is not there so the song is interpreted in a different way and sounds super rapey.

    To be clear. I am not advocating for this old way of thinking, nor am i saying i know the explanation i have given is true. I am only telling what i have heard and felt like to me that actually makes a lot of sense in the right context.

    Basically, women wanted to be able to have sex with anyone they wanted, but people would look down on them for doing it. So, to avoid being ostracised, they would avoid situations like that.

    But again. I may be wrong. I have just heard this explanation and wanted to share.


  • You mentioned it turns out you have ADHD (turns out so do i) and that you began medication for that and it reads that this medication began at around the same time as you started on nicotine again.

    I am inclined to ask the question. Do you think perhaps you are associating the effects of the ADHD treatment to nicotine use?

    There certainly are some documented benefits to nicotine use. And much of what you say is verifiable. However, many of the benefits you describe can be associated with the treatment of ADHD aswell.

    I accept i dont know your personal situation. I only read your comment and noticed the timing seemed to be a bit close.

    On the subject of vaping, i personally experienced some sticky phlegm and trouble coughing this up as well as issues with lung capacity and the dependance on the nicotine made me extremely irritable and unable to concentrate until i vaped.

    Also it takes longer than a few months to break a nicotine addiction. I still uphold the idea that there may have been some withdrawal going on there.

    However i am happy to conceed the point if you genuinely disagree. As i said i have no idea about your personal situation.















  • I have a head voice, but not all the time, I see images, but not all the time, I can hear music in my head, most of the time.

    When I write things down, I often speak the sentence in my head as I write it, but sometimes the words just fall out of me with no voice leading them

    when im planning a food shop, I visualise the shop and walk around it in my head so I put the items I want in the right order on my list. When working out what i need it’s a combination of visualising the fridge/freezer and cupboards and physically looking in them to see what I have and then looking at my meal plan to see what I need. The meal plan i made by just sensing what im craving that week.

    When I learn to play a song, I hear the music in my head and can sound that out to work out chords and melodies.

    When I compose music, I can hear the next chord I want in my head and then have to sound that out on my instrument.

    When I make silly videos to send to my family group chat, I think visually.

    People are just different. If you struggle with that concept, then I feel sorry for you.

    You say it’s for people to feel special, I say it seems to me that it’s more you feeling like you aren’t special because you wish you could think the way other people do.

    In reality, it doesn’t matter how you think. I envy my wife as she is much smarter and more organised than me, but she can’t visualise anything or hear music in her head and thinks more systematically. She is jealous that I can do these things.

    We both agree it’s silly.