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Cake day: September 2nd, 2023

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  • I have a body that no clothes will fit. A very dramatic hourglass shape. If I see something cute, it definitely will not fit me.

    Nothing. Fucking. Fits.

    The worst part is the bras. The fucking bras!!! Why are US bra sizes so fucked?? I literally only wear ill-fitting sports bras now!!! Otherwise my tits are squeezed or wire stabs me or every other pain.

    I also have stupid sensitive skin & hypohydrosis, so rashes & heat exhaustion are things I need to think about when getting dressed.





  • Not a tech person. I’m a seamstress/tailor who will make you feel like the smartest person in the room when I ask questions about computers. Never knew so much about internet privacy before Lemmy, either. It’s been eye-opening to learn about tech-stuff on Lemmy!

    I left R×ddit out of spite, then found out youtubers made videos reading out my posts and said goodbye to it forever. It became a free content farm ripe for mishandling, astroturfing, and paid propaganda.

    My stubborn ass will learn something beyond simple navigation because I’m always wanting to skirt injustice and do what little I can to not support rampant capitalism (I have no money!)

    I mean… I learned Blender. I’m capable of pretty much everything!




  • Hey. I understand that maybe you’re unaware of the nuance behind this. Almost all massive producers of chocolate rely of human exploitation and slavery to get their chocolate. Many “workers” are also young children. People need to know this.

    I know that it seems like people might just be out to “spoil the fun”, but the more you know about a product and how it is produced, you can make decisions about your consumption.

    I’ve made decisions like purchasing the majority of my clothing secondhand, avoiding N×stlè products, cutting much of my meat consumption, etc. because I’m faced with the reality that my choices affect the lives around me, even if I do not see the impact directly.

    It’s upsetting to hear about the reality of things like this, but it’s very very important to be informed. I do not want to simply consume a product if I know that it is actively harming lives and/or contributing to human suffering. If that means avoiding certain chocolate bars, so be it. I hope that someone would do the same for me, too, if I were in such a position.





  • Thank you.

    A big part of why I have severe anxiety to this day is because I was exposed to traumatic things far too young/quickly. I was pushed into situations where I was not ready or emotionally/mentally equipped to handle. Constantly.

    Exposure is only good if a person is ready for it. Desensitization is only helpful when you are equipped to handle such a thing.

    I had an ex who would say that we were doing one thing, then take me to do something completely different, then boast that he was “helping me”, which only heightened my fears in the end. As a foil to that, I had an ex after that who was encouraging and supportive and kind, and gently led me into the same situations, where I knew what I was getting into. Guess how which one had me overcoming my fears?

    Exposure works best if you are prepared for the exposure and have the support you need in those kind of situations.

    I am always thankful for trigger warnings.