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It is not quite what I had in mind, but I’ll still poke around, because I see a lot of YAML in my future…
What I was after was having a switch just like the one shown in the screenshot as a card in the Dashboard. All I can add is a button that changes the color. I know I can YAML it, but it still feels weird that an obvious nice solution is not readily available.
I think you already gave yourself the answer in your own case:
This applies to people that aren’t in your inner circle. You want HER to be in that circle and suddenly it actually does matter what SHE thinks of you. You have little to lose with people you don’t really care about, but everything to lose with people you do care about. It’s an evil social twist that makes everything so complicated. High self-esteem is just the ability to quickly pull yourself up when you fall and the knowledge that you actually CAN do so. It mitigates the risks of “putting yourself out there”.