keepcarrot [she/her]

I feel like you’re talking about multiple things that are only loosely related, some of which could be called honour. It’s varied enough that I wouldn’t call it self-explanatory.

Certainly, I could see someone defining honour as, at some point, the respect of military peers. This still exists with honourable or dishonourable discharge, but reaching back in time one could imagine an honourable knight treating his peasants poorly (and certainly less well than how he treats other knights), to say nothing of women specifically.

Likewise, Japanese culture is said to be an “honour culture” but it could be said to be a particular form of Japanese Machismo that has evolved from the Japanese martial classes (an elite) to the modern proletarian salaryman.

But in common modern usage, I see enough “honourable klingon” memes that use honour as a sort of earnestness and respect amongst everyone.

Not saying any of interpretations are correct (or wholly wrong), just that there’s enough of them that are plausible that saying any of them is self-explanatory is a bit of a reach.

Erm, I’m a bit high

(they are, in fact, two separate people. He became a youth pastor. I also remember he stopped bullying me in year 3 when he found out I could draw dinosaurs pretty well)

Weird, but in a transgressive way that does not strengthen conformity

I met my first primary school bully two decades later at the Estonian consulate, who coincidentally also has the name of a local politician.

Yes.

I don’t think I have, but I’m always mildly irked by broke people stealing from other broke people instead of from people that can afford to replace the stolen whatever.

I used to steal food from the local big chain supermarket.

Do some dishes while waiting for the microwave or toaster in the morning

I’m sure it still happens a bunch, I got a random orbital sander second hand for quite cheap. No one sniped me, but it’s not like its a rare collectible.

Nah, eBay is mostly warehouse vendors now. I find it a little odd if I find an old school second hand item with bids. Also, at least in my country, most of the warehouse vendors offer free shipping. Aliexpress is generally cheaper per item tho

I have to ration disk space and internet here is typically not amazing

Kinda depends. Cop on duty? Probably not. Politician or business owner? Unless they can directly affect you, annoying banter. If they can directly affect you, based on vibes.

Um, we make fun of our authority figures but also believe the worst of them whatever they say about our national enemies (regarding Australia, national enemies include China, immigrants, the poor etc). There is more standard capitalist deference as well, you’re not going to slag someone who can fire you (to their face). And people are constantly ladder climbing as well, so there’s this sort of jockeying to have good banter while not creating enemies more powerful than you. I hate it. Its hard to navigate and people hide some real barbs behind “its a joke”.

idk how to change culture >.>

Sometimes. I have a hard time when to prioritise my own needs against other people’s, so I wind up vacillating between very meek and belligerent kinda randomly. Especially when it comes to social needs (e.g. if it feels like someone else is dominating a conversation with their topic of interest, and I have something I wanted to say about something 3 minutes ago but the person hasn’t stopped talking, idk what do).

I’ve taken a habit of quickly saying I don’t remember names well in some spaces. It comes up a lot in volunteering and activist spaces, where you might meet a dozen people at the same time and then not again for another month. Everyone has a quick laugh and forgives each other for forgetting their names.

(I feel weird if people refer to me by name, which probably says something about my relationship with myself)

I would just give them the username and password of my account, then they can enjoy tomb raider 3 or something.

That’s what I say for machine oil on the edge of someone’s nose, yes

My “wiping nose because its dirty” is very different to my “pantomime wiping nose to indicate someone else’s is dirty”. Also, I will say something before for the latter case like “Hey, you have a little bit of…”

Could also be very hot in the car in some places

Tying shoe laces. One day I could just do it without looking. Before then I couldn’t do it at all, way behind the class by about a year, an embarrassment to my parents.

Job… applications and interviews? The combination of constant rejection, fawning, self aggrandisement, and constantly changing arbitrary standards for all stages just does not gel at all with my combination of rejection sensitivity, slightly different fawning, self deprecation, and bucking against arbitrary social standards etc. I’ve only gotten one job ever from cold calling since I started applying in 2004. Every other time I’ve known someone, and it’s usually a few years between jobs

Yeah, must have crossed wires and the more dominant kids spread it. I have crunchy joints