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FYI Izzy got permabanned for stating this opinion. That’s really insane.
FYI Izzy got permabanned for stating this opinion. That’s really insane.
I’m surprised anybody was getting in vehicles with him after the coup attempt.
Seek therapy
Yup.
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Okay, you have no compassion, just a therapy fetish.
And, um, yeah… let’s keep working on curing cancer, too.
Building communities coordinating on meaningful goals. Actual life as opposed to merely dealing with the trauma of not having a life, goals community.
No amount of therapy can ever take away those needs, or satisfy them.
I don’t want to discouraged anyone from getting therapy, but it’s definitely not a solution. Access to therapy might help people deal with the ongoing problem (and that’s a big “might”) but it will never, ever solve this big issue.
We’re doing more by having this conversation than therapy can do. As long as we keep having them and trying to develop ideas and behaviors to bring those missing things into our lives.
If these mental problems arise from the living conditions of the masses, no amount of therapy can prevent them. Many that seem incurable might just be failing to escape psyche-wrecking situations.
Even if there were enough therapists, and even if they could actually help, you’re still talking about fixing mental problems instead of preventing them.
Sure, but that patriarchy has been around for a long time and this wave of despair is new. You could probably solve some problems that way, but it’s not the solution to the big problem we’re facing here.
Rising inequality and alienation are the problems.
If it’s one big cause that applies to millions, then no, individual therapy cannot fix that massive problem.
Sure… But if there is a massive incidence of these “wounds” then therapy and self help is too little too late.
Why is nobody ITT talking about the causes of this wave of misery? We are putting all the responsibility on individual men to show their vulnerability with no interest in solving the initial problems!
Can you offer some examples of where “being vulnerable” led a man out of depression?
I do agree that there is a culture of masculine shame around mental health, and it can be unhealthy. But I’ve also seen that those who share their feelings don’t get the promotion, tend to make coworkers uncomfortable, drive women away. Life is still a competition and vulnerability is genuinely risky.
I’ve seen bullies strategically share false vulnerability to garner sympathy. Genuine vulnerability often looks gross from a man, and is unlikely to lead to positive outcomes.
Most importantly, this new wave of mental health problems is not caused by a new wave of “not being vulnerable.” It’s a societal issue and must be confronted there, not shunted onto each individual man.
Therapy is never a cure. If you have a problem then therapy can help you confront it and deal with it, but if we have a massive society-wide mental health crisis it will not be solved by each man individually seeking therapy.
We need meaning in our lives, something worth dedicating ourselves to, and the means to pursue it. Mercenary capitalism won’t provide that.
In short, I don’t see an answer. I think it will get worse.
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Most importantly, this new wave of mental health problems is not caused by a new wave of “not being vulnerable.” It’s a societal issue and must be confronted there, not shunted onto each individual man.
Instead, you can host your own instance and block everybody, and stop telling your fellow lemurians to fuck off, and stop pretending that sharing a very common opinion is “bItcHinG”
You are just a troll.
It’s not slippery slope because we have already been instance-hopping as every instance defederates and bans and defederates and bans, all the while we are ridiculed for expressing a desire to be connected, told to get lost.
You’re right, the existence of a tool justifies any abusive use of the tool. Every instance should block every community and we should all get our own private instances and block each other.
Now I won’t sympathize with Lemmy.world during their next DDOS attack. Solidarity has been destroyed.
I would literally have to be kidnapped and dragged to the office against my will.
It’s not even mean. And this isn’t some niche sub specifically about Sync. It’s the most generic sub imaginable. Are they paid by Sync?