Nate Cox

Anyone can be lonely at any time, even surrounded by people who love them.

I’m happily married, I love my wife very much, she is my favorite person and I would be devastated and lost without her. Still, sometimes I feel lonely.

Sometimes I think about my dad who isn’t with us any longer and I feel lonely. Sometimes I think about work stress and I feel lonely. Sometimes I feel lonely for no damn reason at all.

None of that has anything to do with how much I love my wife, or her ability to “provide”; people are just complicated.

Not a nurse but I worked a lot of manual labor jobs that had me on my feet moving all day (e.g., home renovation work) and I can say that your body eventually gets used to that kind of work and the soreness becomes a persistent dull ache that honestly isn’t bad. Kinda like if you just work out daily.

Nursing may be different, and my experience may not apply, but I would think that you will get used to it.

Honestly the only thing I never got used to was standing in one place at retail work. Standing all day in the same spot is not natural and the body rejects it.

I am not a current or ex incel—I came from the front page out of curiosity—but I feel the need to weigh in on this.

I have a black belt in a mixed martial art, I’ve been active in it for many years as a student and as a teacher, and I strongly feel that martial arts can offer a positive improvement to just about every person.

I joined martial arts because I was severely depressed going through a divorce and custody battle; I was going from work to the bar and then home. My life felt meaningless and I very literally woke up one day and realized that if I didn’t change something I was going to kill myself. I joined a local dojo that day.

Martial arts is special. It certainly gives you a place to vent out some frustrations in a safe, productive way… but if you find yourself a good dojo it can be so much more.

Martial arts boosted my confidence massively; it made me feel better about myself and who I am by giving me regular positive interactions with many other people. Belts are earned from hard work, and the experience of being handed that next rank provides a measurable improvement to guide you.

Eventually you start to be the upper belt and get to guide newer people through the same benefits you’ve seen, which feels great. If you go as far as me you may get to stand in front of the class as an expert and feel the healthy respect of a group of people, earned through dedication and the relationships you have formed with them.

Martial arts made me a better person, and better man, a better father, and helped me live a more well rounded and happy life.

Normally I end this little rant there, but if you are an incel and you are looking to get out I will add one more benefit: women go to class too, and if you want positive role model women to help break you out of a cycle of negativity I can think of no better example than an upper-belt woman who you can interact with in a structured environment. Most people in a dojo are pretty chill and happy to help, they also tend to have high confidence in the upper ranks and aren’t looking to prove anything anymore. It’s a pretty fantastic way to form new friendships that will challenge everything the incel community has convinced you is true.

I wouldn’t mind a more tumor resistant body, this one is my ear canal is getting old.

Fuck them and their philosophically similar but marginally divergent opinions.

Big Foot actually being a catchall term for major shoe manufacturers is one of my new favorite things.

Maybe they started the ape-man Bigfoot rumors to distract people from the true evil of Big Foot.

Tribespeople became so addicted that Marubo leaders, fearing that history and culture — which is passed down orally — could be lost forever, they have now limited access to the internet for two hours each morning, five hours each evening, and all day Sunday.

That is still so much internet, we would probably all be healthier following that guideline.

If we’ve just met, not at all.

If we’ve been best friends for 10 years, that would sting a little.

It’s a sad time to be alive when people genuinely believe that being openly hostile and combative is the same thing as constructive criticism.

Banning seems totally reasonable to me. Nobody is obligated to put up with that shit.

Physical media today isn’t really much better though, increasingly frequently all a disk gets you is a license to activate a digital copy anyways, with a “must be online for first play” requirement.

Learning to work the clutch and feel the friction zone is a more difficult skill than some want to admit.

Learning to drive a motorcycle was a bit overwhelming, I remember my instructor talking about applying the brakes with right hand and foot while disengaging the clutch with the left hand and downshifting with the left foot… and thinking “how the hell is anyone supposed to keep track of all that!”

I do miss my stick shift though, it was more fun to drive even if less practical.

It makes me so angry because children are vulnerable and trusting; exploiting that to get them to believe in nonsense is evil.

Ugh I wanted one of these so fucking badly when I was a kid.

I really blame Musecore for this, and all of the social engineering that big tech has been doing for years to make profiting off of selling user submitted content seem acceptable.

I miss the golden age of the late 90’s when tabs were easy to get and free.

Definitely fire, without it none of the other inventions happen afterwards; though I guess we didn’t really invent it as much as we learned to harness it.

That’s some god damn nostalgia for me right there. I think I may need to get mine out and get infuriated with some Pitfall again.

Why is the picture for this url showing “tally, a free way to make forms”? Is the website really using opengraph social thumbnails to display ads?

Edit: Never mind, the linked page has a link to tally in it apparently… which is still not really what the OG links are for, but it’s far less irritating than what I originally thought.

I’m not sure that a protection against changing the default browser with third party programs (maybe without the user knowing) via the registry is the evil thing being depicted here.

The way I read this article is that this is a move for compliance with the new digital markets act and I’m not seeing the maliciousness.

Willing to be wrong, I haven’t used Windows regularly for like 20 years.

I would argue that the signal to noise ratio here makes this metric effectively worthless. Being unpopular doesn’t necessarily indicate bad faith, and downvotes come for many reasons that are not similar enough to group.

Downvotes also bring a unique kind of bad actor: the troll. I have many times seen accounts that go out of their way to farm for downvotes, and that kind of content brings everyone down with it.