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  • An old friend, back when I was 17/18 or so, told me about the last time she had a kitten.

    The kitten somehow got into the WASHER and her busy and absent-minded mother didn’t realize it until the kitten had already drowned. Her mother drove herself (and the kitten) to the police department because she felt so bad.

    After that I have always checked for cats. Even now, at almost 40 (I even check the oven)! My husband thinks it’s over-kill, but I’m never gonna get that horror story out of my head







  • I’m somewhat similar, but I’m also extremely easily distracted. I can’t hold multiple things in my mind for longer than two or three steps ahead. And then anything that comes along to break me out of it and I’m just done. It’s super frustrating, especially because I have the kind of mind that bounces different perspectives around all the time. It’s like I just want to reach out and grab a thought to think it through thouroughly before I get to the next but… nope










  • Idk. I recognize a lot of my beliefs and behaviours as cringe, but I think I’ve cringed so hard at them that I’m now on the other side of that. I look back at my ignorant, gullible, past-self with compassion and the understanding that I’m still likely holding on to incorrect beliefs (and that I’ll likely continue to grow through them) It’s partly why I tend to be so argumentative, I think. (How do you grow without challenge?)

    I currently hold the belief of: Love yourself, it’ll help to generate more compassion for those around you

    (Though I confess I still have many moments of wanting to call people idiots, and it takes a lot to realize that I, too, could be the idiot. It’s a process, ya know?)


  • Take the hardworking co-worker aside. Say:

    “Hey, this situation has been difficult for me. I enjoy working with both you and Lazy, and I miss the days when everyone got along. I don’t want to invalidate your frustrations, but it’s stressfull to hear about how lazy Lazy is being. It doesn’t bother me that Lazy does less work, but the tention between you two does bother me because I enjoy both of your company”

    And see how Hardworker responds. Then go to Lazy.

    “Hey Lazy. Hardworker seems upset that you take more breaks than they do. Do you think you could talk to her and try to clear the air? I enjoy working with both of you, but the tension between you two is upsetting”

    And again, see how they respond.

    It’s entirely possible that neither of them will respond well to this, so bare that in mind. If it’s stressing you out, though, you have an obligation to yourself to try. Just also be aware that it could backfire. So be sure to weigh whether or not it’s worth it to get involved



  • rosymind@leminal.spacetoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhats your such opinion
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    8 months ago

    Depends on the game, for me. I couldn’t imagine trying to play a game like Stellaris on a console- but a game like Horizons is better suited to a console system. I play Skyrim (yes, I know) with a controller on pc, tho. Husband and I played Diablo4 with me using the console and him using his laptop with my wide-screen moved into the livingroom temporarily

    Personally I think both are needed for optimal gaming.