It typically doesn’t. But some instances do defederate with some others, though it’s rare. Lemmygrad.ml, for example, is a “tankie”-oriented instance. A lot of instances don’t get along with it and have defederated from it. Your home instance is lemmy.world, and if you look here:
Click on the “Blocked Instances” tab to see a list of instances that lemmy.world has defederated from.
You’ll notive that lemmygrad.ml is on that list, so you won’t see any content from that instance.
There’s no (well, at the level relevant here) constraint on how detailed a reflection can be. I mean, pull out a mirror and look in it.
If you want a more-politically-censored environment, I guess you could try beehaw.org. They tend to enforce positivity and restrict some political stuff and are into creating a “safe space”.
We want to explicitly make a nice little corner of the internet where we can hide from racist, sexist, ableist, colonialist, homophobic, transphobic, and other forms of hateful speech. We want a space where people encourage each other, are nice to each other, are supportive and exploratory and playful.
It’s not really what I’m looking for in a home instance, and there’s a limited amount of activity there, but I’ll give that they seem to have a userbase that seems less suicidally-depressed than some other home instances on the Threadiverse. Note that they have defederated from lemmy.world, as they don’t feel that it fits with their policies, so you’ll have more-limited access to content than on most home instances. Also, I remember seeing that they were considering moving to some non-Lemmy platform (Pleroma? Can’t remember), so if you specifically want Lemmy, that might not work for you if they do such a move.
EDIT: If you take your requirements literally, I think that you’re going to have a hard time finding an existing instance that will fulfill all of them. Beehaw.org might be closer, but it’s just not going to get you that far. Like, you said that you want an instance with no libertarians. I lean right-libertarian, so any instance that I could use would already be violating your requirements. I think that such an instance would probably need to require users to up-front state their political views at registration time so that that information would be available, disallow users with banned political views from access, and only federate with a small, whitelisted set of instances. The closest thing to that, where I think you have admin-level policing of political views, is probably on the tankie-oriented instances, and you’ve also said that you object to tankies.
You could set up an instance yourself and only federate with a carefully-curated set of instances that have similar instance and federation rules. But that’s also going to obviously seriously limit the content available. Maybe hit [email protected] and try to promote it to any like-minded users.
Your home instance says that it’s federated with lemmynsfw.com.
https://lemmynsfw.com/instances
Lemmynsfw.com says that it’s federated with your home instance of feddit.uk.
Are you sure that you don’t just have NSFW communities blocked in your settings? In the vanilla Lemmy Web UI, it’s a checkbox labeled “Show NSFW content”.
NoStupdQuestions doesn’t allow NSFW topics
[email protected] was created explicitly for NSFW questions.
Specifically for hexbear, lemmy.ml, and lemmygrad.ml, you might also take a look at [email protected].
EDIT: Well, okay, it’s not really specific to those instances, but YePowerTrippingMods is about behavior by mods in general and whether it’s appropriate, and MeanwhileOnGrad is specific to criticism of objectionable tankie things, which often involves mod/admin stuff.
You can use VoIP if you have a cell data connection.
http://lemmyverse.net/communities provides a searchable list of communities on all instances. Searching for “scalp” there doesn’t turn up anything relevant. If something like that exists, it probably uses a different term.
I haven’t been using instant messaging programs much for some years, but checking https://old.reddit.com/r/xmpp/ I see:
https://www.glukhov.org/post/2025/09/xmpp-jabber-userbase-and-popularity/
This has an estimate of 13–20 million users globally for 2023, but warns that because many servers don’t publish information about their userbase, there’s necessarily uncertainty. According to it, Germany is the country with the largest userbase, followed by Russia, followed by the US.
jabber.org is a major server.
I think that you can make most tragedies worse in a fairly-mechanical fashion. Whatever it is, it’s probably worse if you’re being stung by bees at the same time, for example. So trying to come up with the very worst tragedy seems like it’d be pretty hard. You could list some bad tragedies…
And, amusingly, apparently what our own top Executive Branch officials in the US use instead of the classified material approved stuff that they’re supposed to. Like, you have the NSA at your beck and call to secure your communications, and you turn to Moxie Marlinspike:
In fairness to Moxie, I’m sure that he doesn’t look like that most of the time, and I use Signal too, but…
Probably the Electronic Frontier Foundation. Internet civil liberties.
I think that they’ve done some really helpful things by throwing resources and legal or technical expertise at the right place where often there isn’t another organization that would address the issue. Stuff like privacy or security issues online where no one entity stands to really benefit strongly enough from a fix to get involved, and they have the technical chops to make correct statements. When they make recommendations, I’d call them reputable and objective, someone who I’d generally trust. They’ve helped shape the Internet as it became a mainstream element of human society in ways that I’d call positive.
They’re US-centric (that is, they don’t just do the US, but do have a US focus). In the EU, EDRi is a little similar.
It looks like in the UK, the Open Rights Group may be analogous, but I haven’t read enough of their material to have an opinion on them.
what did you think the community was going to be for? literally fucking AI?
Well, there’s [email protected]…
You can search all Threadiverse communities on https://lemmyverse.net/communities.
EDIT: One place you might try would be [email protected]. Not much going on there at the moment, but as per its description:
A place to discuss the ideas, developments, and technology that can and will shape the future of civilization.
That’s not specific to AI alone, much less pessimistic views, but how technologies like it will impact society would be in scope.
EDIT2: As to moderators being active, there’s not presently much there to moderate. One mod seems to have been inactive for two years, but @[email protected] looks to be alive, commented somewhere three days ago. And there aren’t any memes or rage-stuff presently on there, if that’s what you’re hoping to have moderated away.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carrot_and_stick
Goes into more detail.
There’s this process in language where intensifiers — words that amplify the strength of the meaning of the rest of the phrase — tend to become used in areas that they aren’t really truly appropriate in and thus “weaken” in meaning.
So, for example, “awesome” once truly meant “awe-inspiring”, but it’s been used enough in weaker senses the past several decades here in California that it doesn’t really mean that any more. It just means “very good” now.
I don’t think that the Brits do that with “awesome” — or at least not as much — but they like to use “colossally” in a similar way.
The above Wikipedia link has a list of intensifiers, including “literally”, and you can probably recognize a bunch of them that have “weakened”.
I’ve used them happily from a policy standpoint, but in past months, they’ve had some real load problems, where the instances has been unresponsive. I’m pretty sure that a lot of it is due to scraper-bots pulling material for AI training — I understand that this has been a serious problem for the Web as a whole, and particularly for forum sites, including the Threadiverse, and is why many Threadiverse instances have stopped allowing anonymous login in past months. Lemmy.today was a holdout, but finally also disabled anonymous login. However, I just tried it today and while it seemed fine for a while, I also saw an unresponsive episode, so I don’t know if they may still have other load issues to iron out.