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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • What I meant was (and I was being a little humorous) that your normal type is the one you’d rationally want to like intellectually and emotionally and this dude is the one you.are physically attracted to. I was thinking you were crying over the men you wanted to be similarly physically attracted to and the strong emotional reaction was a result of your surprise at how intense the physical attraction could be.

    It’s OK to have more than one type and be attracted to different people for different reasons. I think you have just discovered a new aspect of your own preferences and are trying to reconcile them.





  • As someone who comes from a country where we do require photo ID for voting, not requiring one feels absurd, so I asked the same question. Apparently in the US, there is a part of the population that doesn’t normally get photo ID and that part is mostly poor people and minorities and photo ID laws are used as means of disenfranchisement, similar to having the voting days during business days (when many people can’t come to vote) or having voting stations far away in an area with limited public transport options.

    Where I live in Finland, the police will actually grant you a temporary photo ID only for voting if you don’t have one, although most people have passports. There are early voting stations in basically every post office for a week and the main voting day is always on a Sunday. No excuse to miss voting.

    I’ve only missed one voting during my life, at a time when I was living in another country and there was no consulate in the part of the country I was in. Nowadays there’s also the option of mail-in voting when outside the country, I don’t know if it wasn’t a thing back then or I just didn’t know.

    That’s not to say I didn’t want some improvements in our system: I’d like to see ranked choice voting or something similar here, there are some smaller parties I’ve been voting and it seems they seldom have a chance.















  • I am a product manager.

    It’s a great job for someone who cannot focus, since it’s not really one job.

    • Communication skills: You need to both gather information from customers, and sell your ideas inside the organization (as well as to customers)
    • Technical skills: You need to be able to explain your ideas to engineering teams and understand the limitations / opportunities afforded by the technology you work with
    • Business skills: You need to understand the business your product exists in, and ensure that your product serves the needs of your own employers needs (like, supports processes, works well with other products and services). In a B2B context, you also need to understand your customers business.
    • Management skills: You most likely need to set goals for other people and design how other people work around your product. This will include areas like HR management, process design, legal etc.

    Each of these areas is a discipline onto itself. In my case for example, technical skills involves working with mechanical, electrical and software engineers.

    Needless to say, you don’t get to be very good at any of this. And you shouldn’t either. A great product manager is enough of an expert in all of the areas to recognize problems, and set the framework for solving it, but will allow the experts to do their jobs. Focusing too much on technical expertise will make the PM too much of an engineer.