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Cake day: July 24th, 2023

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  • I think the only way is to be less popular and to keep moving. People that run bots are like bullies, and are either crazed zealots that eventually will run out of motivation, or already have limited motivation and you have to make it harder for them until they stop caring. In which case, they basically just become an actual user.

    Now the trick is how to string along your users in the same way that doesn’t turn them away.

    Offer something juicy to people who care, but foul to those who don’t.

    Or just have better human moderation, like what Ada said. Treat your instance like a community and a team, watch over them and get rid of the bots, and then block instances that do a bad job at that. Isn’t that basically the fediverse way, already? Because there will always be spam and bad actors and dissent. Only through the strengths of humanity can we beat the bots.

    Combine these two arms, and they would be pretty solid. I leave the more rock hard, third arm solution to somebody much smarter than me, but welcome it gratefully and happily if and when it comes.

    • ramblings of somebody just waking up


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    PROTIP: to put a tiny bit of spicy in your hot chocolate. Not enough that you can taste, but just enough that you can just barely faintly feel it in the back of your throat, as it enhances the sweetness without relying on salt. I generally do like a micro-pinch or cayenne powder, since that’s the easiest and what I generally have on hand consistently.

    If you can taste spicy, it’s too much.


  • Real. Every year, my partner and I and other partners or friends are welcome to join us, go out into the forests and legally cut down a tree.

    It’s a pain in the ass, it’s adventure, it’s a party, it’s fun. It’s also way cheaper than just buying one. I think we paid like $13 for the state park purpose licence this past weekend.

    I have a tradition I made up for this, too. Every year, I cut a puck off the bottom of the tree before I put it in the stand. I drill a hole through it, label it with the year with a marker, and hang it from the tree. I think this will be our 7th year? It hasn’t been decorated yet because our living room is super small and a disaster and the tree is currently in the kitchen.

    I find that the challenge gives purpose to time, and gives us excuse to socialize more in these dark months.



  • There’s basically no ethical porn. Even under capitalism. Especially under capitalism.

    However, I like porn.

    There are varying degrees of ethical infringements, as morality is not simply binary.

    As… Who I am… I have always found finding porn made for me to be difficult. But, I think that process is important, as it helps you be honest with finding who you are and what you like. I think guilt, shame, and fear are incredibly sad. And while life is full of varying things to do, missing out on one’s own sexuality and possibilities of finding bliss and happiness in your sexual prime is an egregiously evil effect of prudism and puritanism. There’s definitely more to life than sexual activities, but… They’re also extremely social, fun, good for you, and critically core to fulfillment and growth in so many ways.

    I suppose I don’t enjoy porn as much as I used to. At least I don’t consume it as much as I used to. And that’s not for lack of wanting, it’s just most porn today sucks ass and I would much rather be doing than watching all the popular boring stuff. It’s almost like fomo. Not always, but sometimes you want to DO, not watch, yeah?

    Like maybe once you start doing really freaky stuff in real life, your standards go up for stimulation. But at the same time, maybe I have a much better idea what I like and most porn is catering to different people.

    Yeah I dunno. It’s just porn. Celebrate being alive as best you can. And don’t hurt other people unless there’s consent :)



  • Different tools for different jobs. There’s a ton more variables at play. Oversimplifying does just that.

    Play with it all. Try to do both. Then you will have a better idea. Or post on lemmy asking everybody and read a lot of incomplete and possibly misleading explanations that might help you find the detail(s) you lack to edge your mind into a wider hunger for deeper understanding.

    Mine? Cast iron is just different. Like using a truck vs using a car.

    In real life, nothing is clear. So, when people give you clear explanations, they may be making the decision to not invest a lot of energy trying to get you to understand or know more. Like right now, I know that spectrum people take a lot of explaining sometimes, and I am really tired and going to bed, so my best advice is to understand they’re different. Learn by doing if you can, and learn from others if you can. But, if it means anything, I use two cast iron skillets, three types of stainless steel pans, some of them tri-ply, and an aluminum with a nonstick coating. I have my preferences not just for different things, but styles of certain things, and even times for different things (like just cooking for me, or one other person, or multiple other people).

    Also, generally with non-stick, using high heat or metal utensils on it will ruin it and expose you to pretty bad chemicals basically immediately. But also so does any smoke in general.

    Literally pick your poison.



  • Firefox and https://piro.sakura.ne.jp/xul/_treestyletab.html.en That’s the creators page, but it’s also on the Mozilla site.

    I use a bunch of other stuff too, that synergizes and whatnot, but that’s the tree style tabs that I’ve been using since like 2011. I’ve also been telling people that this is the future the entire time, and nobody ever believes me. But that’s fine, it’s going to be an inevitable option. But maybe at this rate, the internet will die before people adopt tree tabs hahaha.

    If you do use that extension, I suggest going through the options, as it’s pretty well fleshed out. An option that makes a big difference to me is the the theme or whatever, to clearly see the boxes around each tab, and therefore the indentation. Another meaningful option is the tree behavior that auto-collapses the tree is you open a new one - I don’t like that, and prefer the trees stay option and me in control. But to each their own. After all, this is all just tools for you to optimize and explore.


  • I regularly sit at anywhere from a thousand to several thousand tabs on my desktop browser. I have a tab-counter extension.

    I use tree-style tabs. I use this to organize thoughts into groups, or families, hierarchically, with varying levels and numbers of tabs, depending on topic and my interest.

    Most tabs are unloaded. I do close and reopen my browser regularly, and restart my pc. I just have the browser remember the tabs in it.

    I do occasionally revisit and complete families of tabs. Sometimes I’ll queue up loads of things to read on a subject, so that nothing ever has to load or reload.

    Tabs are like a working space to me, kind of like working memory in your brain.

    Sometimes I’ll load in several searches at once.

    I have ADHD.

    I am also a very passionate and try to be a very thorough person.

    I generally do things top-down when researching, but also casually search.

    I have waves of purging, myself, but also will randomly close tabs or trees if they are complete or exhausted.

    Like once a year or so, the browser has a stroke and decides to flush everything away and I’m sad for a couple weeks.

    I have lost amazing things and nearly exhaustive subjects, that alone have been hundreds of tabs.

    An example of which was a (near) 100% collection of a web archive that had a complete list and archive of a lost website and organization that personally means a lot to me. I had separated its history into eras, and had found and organized nearly all of a thing that had ever been made by the organization. It’s extremely nitpicky and claims almost no storage in my mind or pc. Think of it like data hoarding or zombifying something I deem important and culturally significant. Nearly impossible to do automatedly, and I wouldn’t want nor trust a bot to do it, so I did it myself, by hand, in line with a hobby.




  • “How do I deal with friends or family members that are autistic?”

    Well, one way is to try to actually understand them and where they’re coming from and what they’re really saying. Actually have the conversation and engage.

    If you haven’t actually tried to do that, then this is 100% on you.

    If you HAVE tried to, and actually cannot have a conversation, you still have choices. You could hold a side conversation with somebody else. You could leave the space. You could try to out-compete them in talking over you, if that’s the case, and hold your ground. You could also just stand up, and give them a hug and tell them it’s gonna be okay, as a lot of people just come from a place of fear.

    However, something about your wording and perspective leads me to believe you are not the type of person who can rise to an occasion and converse with difficult subjects with upset people, or have the emotional fortitude to deal with a neurodivergent person. Have you thought about maybe just not inviting them, or just avoiding them, altogether? Because being passive aggressive like you seem isn’t the way. Even if, in your gatherings, it is acceptable or common, I encourage you to not sink to that level of toxic manipulation, if you can really help it.

    Depending on the subject of your subject, you may steer the conversation into a more entertaining perspective or topic that’s good for both of you.

    In the worst case, though, you can always go outside for a quick run or walk and refresh your mind.

    Edit: if it is just straight up abuse, which your description does not lead me to believe, but other comments presume, I do encourage you to treat it as the conflict that it is, appropriately.



  • There used to be this game called Aion. It was an MMO from like 2007. I had, hands down, the best character on there. The character looked like a cartoonified version of a Muppet Mr Bean. Most people just made short and wide characters with tiny heads, but that’s all games. My character was like 10ft tall, super lanky with a beer belly, and made everybody else look ridiculous with how interesting he was. I honestly could have made a real life muppet version of him out of foam and sticks and felt and stuff.

    Edit: apparently it’s still around. Which is wild. Maybe I’ll make a new account or see if my old character is still there. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aion_(video_game) it’s Korean and from 2008. I don’t remember it being particularly good or unique other than you could glide places with wings, but that’s been done by every game under the sun now.

    It also looks like there’s a sequel that either just came out recently or is about to very soon.