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Cake day: July 23rd, 2023

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  • Not me but my wife

    My wife grew up very poor, like might not have running water poor.

    So her parents were in jail for the umpteenth time and she was staying with her aunt and uncle. They were just as poor, however, the aunt did not care about home cleanliness like my wife’s mother and they had roach infestations like no other. Every electronic shorted out from roach bodies. You could not set a drink or food down or it would be swarmed. It wasn’t only one time either. Each home that these people went to was condemned soon after because of the infestations and unwillingness to clean.



  • You’re doing fine. Don’t try to force it or focus on it too much tbh. If you are being rejected just move on unless you see the effort as worth it. I am not sure what type of woman you are looking for so I cannot give a good enough answer where to search. You are still very young and honestly I would say keep focusing on yourself while just meeting people.


  • I would say that most things in life are changeable. Being happy with yourself doesn’t mean you stop striving to be better. It means you accept yourself for your faults and all. Strive to be a better version of yourself every day no matter how small. Start small changes and build up.

    I hear people say “You are perfect just the way you are” but that isn’t true. Perfection is a goal to never be achieved but is always sought after.

    I do not speak to the aspects of our political landscape or the position of our society but the framing of our lives and how we can effect it.

    In fact I found quite a bit more happiness and perspective when I seperated myself from political and societal issues.

    I appreciate your candor in these talks.


  • I believe it is easier to see mentally ill people because I was depressed at one point and noticing the behaviors is easier. While I don’t subscribe to the “we are all mentally ill” frame of mind, I do believe that it is a good majority of humans.

    I believe that chasing happiness is ultimately impossible. However, being happy with ones self and coming to terms with your reality and accepting what you can and cannot change is possible. Do not dwell on what you cannot change and change what you can.

    I have noticed through my own actions and the action of others that we limit ourselves through self sabotage. If we sabotage ourselves and stop ourselves from actually failing then we already know the outcome and cannot be more discouraged than if we actually try. This is why I say accept failure and learn from it. “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life” -Jean-Luc Picard


  • People glorify adulting as some kind of ultimate maturity for ones self. It is not that. Adulting is predicting what can and won’t be your life. Surviving better each day. While also keeping after yourself in a healthy manner.

    We are always growing until we die. Adulting is accepting what can be and what can’t be and living with yourself.

    Perceive reality as it is and accept the successes and failures along the way.

    One day you will see people for what they are and are not. That day your awareness of the world will change.

    I’ve noticed it has become easier to see liers as I’ve gotten older and mentally ill people.



  • Back in the day someone’s father would teach their son’s how to court a woman. I had no real father figure growing up but I was lucky to have met my wife in highschool. I recently asked my grandmother how my grandfather courtes her and it was actually so simple.

    Nowadays men and women have unrealistic expectations of each other and what relationship should be. Social media is also put a divide between us and how we communicate with each other from a very young age.

    On top of this men have become afraid of failure when it comes to talking to women. This a long with social media saying you are a creep for taking a shot men have been crippled in their confidence.

    I believe that social media should not be available to kids and young adults until adulthood. I believe that social media prevents people from socializing properly. Face to face communication with both sexs is crucial for humans.