Melt it and cast again?
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Very well said. I have a little daughter and I’m 100% certain I’m far from the perfect father. However, a lot, maybe the majority of my thoughts revolve around her and I’m trying to balance preparing her for the future, her wellbeing, make her happy (often the former two don’t make her happy, e.g. eating vegetables) and keep myself sane, healthy and at least a bit happy. There’s also my wife and our marriage which also needs attention.
What I’m trying to say is that being a father isn’t easy and there’s no manual for it since it’s extremely individual.
Maybe your father wasn’t really happy for a long time and kind of waited (consciously or unconsciously) until you and your sister grew up and then turned up the selfishness and tried to satisfy his needs.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•DAE in their 30s/40s/50s not really feel like an adult?
2·23 days agoIt’s almost unbelievable how much my world changed by having a child. Indeed the center of the universe shifted and I became a satellite instead of the center piece.
And it’s still weird for me because I didn’t even know I could feel so much love. I don’t actually understand it because especially in the beginning a baby doesn’t really do anything positive for you except for totally depending on you and looking cute. Besides that extreme sleep deprivation (she had a lot of tummy aches as baby), torture by loud crying all day long, causing lots of worries, no more time for friends and also costing quite a lot of money.
I don’t mean this in a negative way. I just mean without this sudden feeling of total unconditional love babies probably wouldn’t survive. She’s 4 years now and it’s still a struggle but I love her to bits and would still give everything. The game has changed though and now she tells me what she wants while I know that not everything she wants is good for her and sometimes I have to force her to do things she absolutely doesn’t want for her own good…
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•DAE in their 30s/40s/50s not really feel like an adult?
6·24 days agoMy little daughter thinks I’m an adult and calls me daddy
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Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the most hilariously useless superpower you can think of?
3·30 days agoYou can kill anyone by thinking of it but it’s only works on people you love.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do middle aged family men handle it?
6·1 month agoI feel the same and when I read your post I heard the lyrics of “The Message” of Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five in my head… “It’s like a jungle sometimes It makes me wonder how I keep from going under”
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What exactly is the reasoning behind Satan ruling Hell?
1·1 month agoAh, this is the book I remember the least of and that confused me the most. But now I also kind of remember something from another NT book talking about burning bad crops or something like that…
The burning part fits the typical hell depictions a bit.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What exactly is the reasoning behind Satan ruling Hell?
2·1 month agoThank you. It’s been a while since I read the Bible the last time.
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What exactly is the reasoning behind Satan ruling Hell?
5·1 month agoI believe in the scripture there’s mostly talk about the realm of the dead as well as weeping and gnashing of teeth, right?
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•What's the name of the early-mid 2000's song that sounds like Beyonce, starts with a "dun...dun... dun DUN!" guitar part, and the singer makes this "dabudabudabu" sound in a soft way?
5·1 month agoMan that made me think of this episode of Cromartie High where everyone is humming a different song.
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Humanity and software architecture have something in common
41·1 month agoI think / hope the brain is just a receiver and our body is a remote controlled avatar with some basic autonomy built in.
So if the connection is bad or something urgent happens that needs fast reactions the avatar does it.
Examples: Reflexes, thinking about something in car and arriving at home without remembering driving. Schizophrenia could be a broken receiver that also receives commands and thoughts from someone else. Alien hand syndrome could be similar.
NDE could be temporary complete connection loss.
I hope for this because it would allow a (technical) explanation for a life after death
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's the most impressive video game mod you've ever come across?
2·2 months agoI forgot the names but there are a few amazing X-COM / UFO / Terror from the deep mods!
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•A computer can never be held accountable. Therefore computers are a valuable tool for law enforcement and the ruling class.
10·2 months agoYou could hold developers of algorithms, logic and even symbolic AI accountable.
However, it’s a completely different story for AI based on deep neutral networks. After training they’re just a bunch of weights and parameters without individual meaning and it’s not a few, it’s billions or trillions of them. And almost none of them were individually set, they’re often randomly initialized and then automatically tuned by deep learning algorithms during training until the behavior / predictions of the neural net are “good enough”.
It’s practically impossible to review the network and when you test it you just get the result for the concrete test cases, you can’t interpolate or assume even slightly different cases will behave similarly. You also can’t fix an individual bug. You can just train again or more and this effort might fix the problem but it could also destroy something that worked before (catastrophic forgetting).
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How successful would a masked vigilante be in real life?
2·2 months agoI understand. While I was never truly suicidal I often wished for my situation to be just over and to disappear. So I think I get the people who make those “quick” decisions like jumping in front of a train, from a height or drive the car into a wall or something.
However, there also seem to be suicidal people who make elaborate plans with a whole lot of preparation and with seemingly a big focus on visibility and messaging. For those, I could imagine going after a crime Syndicate and things like that.
Yet, while I was writing this I realized these people with a death wish but also aggression and a wish to punish others are probably mass shooters and terrorists…
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Do xenomorphs, if prepared correctly, taste like shrimp?
5·2 months agoYeah, I mean some of our current dishes are also quite complex and turn poison into something tasty.
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Do xenomorphs, if prepared correctly, taste like shrimp?
3·2 months agoHmmm. Would lobsters or king crabs be suitable hosts?
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Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Do xenomorphs, if prepared correctly, taste like shrimp?
5·2 months agoThank you. No too bad then, maybe even a delicacy once people get used to it.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How successful would a masked vigilante be in real life?
2·2 months agoSlightly off topic but I often wondered why people who want to commit suicide don’t start a fight against organized crime or some other nasty opponent.


There are still a few BBS around. Before that you could try sharing floppy discs on the schoolyard, that was how I started