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Cake day: March 6th, 2025

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  • Very well said. I have a little daughter and I’m 100% certain I’m far from the perfect father. However, a lot, maybe the majority of my thoughts revolve around her and I’m trying to balance preparing her for the future, her wellbeing, make her happy (often the former two don’t make her happy, e.g. eating vegetables) and keep myself sane, healthy and at least a bit happy. There’s also my wife and our marriage which also needs attention.

    What I’m trying to say is that being a father isn’t easy and there’s no manual for it since it’s extremely individual.

    Maybe your father wasn’t really happy for a long time and kind of waited (consciously or unconsciously) until you and your sister grew up and then turned up the selfishness and tried to satisfy his needs.


  • It’s almost unbelievable how much my world changed by having a child. Indeed the center of the universe shifted and I became a satellite instead of the center piece.

    And it’s still weird for me because I didn’t even know I could feel so much love. I don’t actually understand it because especially in the beginning a baby doesn’t really do anything positive for you except for totally depending on you and looking cute. Besides that extreme sleep deprivation (she had a lot of tummy aches as baby), torture by loud crying all day long, causing lots of worries, no more time for friends and also costing quite a lot of money.

    I don’t mean this in a negative way. I just mean without this sudden feeling of total unconditional love babies probably wouldn’t survive. She’s 4 years now and it’s still a struggle but I love her to bits and would still give everything. The game has changed though and now she tells me what she wants while I know that not everything she wants is good for her and sometimes I have to force her to do things she absolutely doesn’t want for her own good…









  • I think / hope the brain is just a receiver and our body is a remote controlled avatar with some basic autonomy built in.

    So if the connection is bad or something urgent happens that needs fast reactions the avatar does it.

    Examples: Reflexes, thinking about something in car and arriving at home without remembering driving. Schizophrenia could be a broken receiver that also receives commands and thoughts from someone else. Alien hand syndrome could be similar.

    NDE could be temporary complete connection loss.

    I hope for this because it would allow a (technical) explanation for a life after death




  • You could hold developers of algorithms, logic and even symbolic AI accountable.

    However, it’s a completely different story for AI based on deep neutral networks. After training they’re just a bunch of weights and parameters without individual meaning and it’s not a few, it’s billions or trillions of them. And almost none of them were individually set, they’re often randomly initialized and then automatically tuned by deep learning algorithms during training until the behavior / predictions of the neural net are “good enough”.

    It’s practically impossible to review the network and when you test it you just get the result for the concrete test cases, you can’t interpolate or assume even slightly different cases will behave similarly. You also can’t fix an individual bug. You can just train again or more and this effort might fix the problem but it could also destroy something that worked before (catastrophic forgetting).


  • I understand. While I was never truly suicidal I often wished for my situation to be just over and to disappear. So I think I get the people who make those “quick” decisions like jumping in front of a train, from a height or drive the car into a wall or something.

    However, there also seem to be suicidal people who make elaborate plans with a whole lot of preparation and with seemingly a big focus on visibility and messaging. For those, I could imagine going after a crime Syndicate and things like that.

    Yet, while I was writing this I realized these people with a death wish but also aggression and a wish to punish others are probably mass shooters and terrorists…