chosensilence

yes, but so is gender. gender is largely socially enforced. these behaviors and habits will be judged based on how you are perceived.

Plenty of trans people accept their AGAB for some amount of time before realizing that it isn’t correct.

my bad lol i don’t mean it that way, i meant overall if you are accepting of your AGAB you are living as a cisgender person. you can “accept” it in your mind but remain uncomfortable enough to further pursue lines of questioning, yes, but if you haven’t had any incongruence then i would feel it appropriate to say you are cis.

I’m as certain as I reasonably can be.

i get it, but i have been certain of many things only to have lived the opposite result. my point is that you might not realize how relevant your assumed gender is to your overall personal image until people are constantly commenting on it and noticing it.

I simply accepted my AGAB

you are cisgender.

I realized that I don’t feel any connection to this gender

this experience lies on a spectrum. for example, genderqueer folks have had their expression scrutinized and oppressed, so gender identity is more of an issue they think about than the average person. basically, you don’t have to exist with a sense of fulfilment or pride to be comfortable as the gender you’ve been assigned. you not having any incongruence implies your comfort level being seen by society as the gender you present.

I just don’t care about gender.

i want to ask if you are certain of this, because simply not possessing any feelings positive or negative about your gender doesn’t mean you’d be fine if you woke up as the opposite or something in-between. i’m generalizing here, but genuinely think of how you’d feel if you transformed into the opposite gender while retaining who you are right now. all of your beliefs, passions, interests, social expectations, public perception, and many, many other things are impacted by gender. not in a direct way for some but a guy interested in childhood education or a woman choosing not to have kids would both face questions and assumptions because of their gender. you would also be forced to see your body and yourself differently because others would treat you as the new gender you are now presenting as. still don’t care?

because they can do whatever the fuck they want lol. it doesn’t matter what justification they have, it’s made up.

it can lol i honestly think it can also be used effectively. there is an interesting way to go about it.

you’re not wrong truly it’s about how you look at what is being created. a lot of studio albums are polished because they want to represent the artist’s closest vision. it isn’t necessarily about being raw, that’s for Live. they want to make the song they know is there in the exact way they hear it. pitch correct will not take somebody who is truly bad and make them sound good because the worse they are the more the effect has to be adjusted. it becomes really obvious and you’ll hear sharp corrections.

i’m sorry but i am a musician and know producers and this doesn’t pass the smell test. what you think of as crap may be decent lol.

…yes, i know what Melodyne is thanks lol. it still cannot do that. it will be incredibly bad sounding and obvious if the singer isn’t able to sing on key consistently enough and the errors aren’t minimal.

i don’t think so. autotune does not make a bad singer good or otherwise generate new content from existing material. every artist uses a variant of autotune, but it is an editing tool, not a replacement for skill.

nothing and fuck all of you for participating in this scam.

we’ve transcended our bodies at that point tbh.

a lot of things are black and white though. the world is becoming more and more fascist, so a ton of people are done being polite and entertaining the spectrum of ideas. it’s easy to lose sight of it all and become frustrated and forget nuance.

yes, both of my closest friends have pulled away. one far less, one far more. we’re all good friends as well so we talk about each other since we care about each other. our mutual friend hasn’t spoken to us in months. i have sent them several texts letting them know whenever they want to talk to reach out. i tell them every so often i care about them and love them and am thinking of them, but nothing. we’ve known each other for 20 years… since teens. it sucks. i know what’s going on and i don’t.

the friend i still talk to has pulled back in other ways. we talk frequently but it isn’t about deep stuff anymore other than politics since we are compatible leftists. but i don’t talk about her life and when i try to ask it gets deflected or dismissed. not rudely, mind you, she just doesn’t go into detail.

i understand… but i’m still a bit hurt. i miss friendship; the ones i had before. i hope we all come back to each other.

in the meantime, i have also met new friends. i always enjoy meeting people.

i don’t think so. it appears to be growing tbh.

i listen to music constantly. it is my passion hobby, my favorite form of art, my special interest. there are over 4600 artists in my library and i’m always visiting new and old sounds. i love music.

i would be devastated. i don’t know. i’m not sure if i could find living bearable.

i strongly believe we have deluded ourselves as a society to associate natural human feelings with youth when they are simply how humans perceive and feel regardless of age. every single older person i ask if they feel their age says no. they all tell me they feel like they’re in their 20s at the oldest, some still teenagers. your body ages, you get wiser due to life experiences, but you don’t “become an adult” ever, because what we consider adulthood is a Western lie built upon capitalist standards and strict American individualism (if you’re in the US).

i don’t feel 36. i don’t know what that would even entail. i feel “younger,” but i don’t see it that way. i feel like a human being connected to his actual existence and acknowledging it rather than allowing it to be repressed because i’m too old for x y z. we are all young-minded permanently. that’s just how humans are. it isn’t reserved for the physically young.

good, do it even more.

it depends. you mention “intense fear” as opposed to being uncomfortable or uneasy or feeling slightly threatened. that would be the average response, i’d think. if you have a history of abuse or trauma, then your intense fear may be a disordered response.

you’re not wrong—that is an angle i can understand and even agree with, but while we are living in this system it isn’t smart to pretend reality is different and stubbornly breed regardless if you should.

i doubt that.