I’ve also known more men named Leslie than women

I love Elfriede and Ute, too

I get most of my clothing free (I’m not picky and I’m a common size), so at least in my case, sometimes I paid nothing to look like an advertisement. I don’t really care what’s on the shirt, and some of them are logos I don’t recognize, so it could be anything. It’s there to keep me from being arrested or kicked out, and my primary criteria are comfort in texture and temperature. If it’s comfy, has no holes/stains and fits well, I’m not worried about what design it has on it.

…To a point, I’m not wearing anything bigoted (though part of me enjoys the idea of a queer autistic immigrant getting use out of bigotry by wearing it inside out, but not enough)

My favorite sweatshirts are my uniform sweatshirts from the bakery I work at- they’re high quality and comfy as hell, plus I’ll never, ever wear them at work because it’s a bakery, it’s hot as fuck.

I hang it up to keep it out of the way and to keep feet that haven’t just been washed off of it, so it’s more of an added bonus. Plus, I’d bang the shit out of my elbows trying to dry my hair in my shower stall and if I don’t dry that first, it’s pointless.

I’ve been recommended this book multiple times and it probably would help me, but I feel like I’d have to admit to myself that my goal is manipulation before picking it up, and I don’t want that to be my goal.

Tbh, saying “come feel my wound, bro” is a metal as hell way to respond to Thomas

I just hang the bath mat up to dry afterwards, problem solved

I fully agree. It’s not always intentional, because sometimes I do pick up on it (probably the non native language + work makes it just impossible to get in the moment from her), but I almost always pretend not to, and it generally defuses the situation pretty well.

I’m also a crier, so the alternative is not great

I have coffee, raspberry seltzer, and tap water. This is very normal for me, though my husband thinks it’s funny to see how many different types of beverage I’ll accept without realizing, so sometimes it’ll get up to like 6 drinks.

I take medication that causes dry mouth, for context.

Aw, a shared yearning: federated itch.

My boss has got very high EQ, but tends to have fraught, tense relationships with our female coworkers (I described it to my husband as working with a mother and daughter who don’t get along- they say a bunch of things that seem nice and also seem to hurt each other a lot and I don’t know why).

She sometimes says passive aggressive things to me, but it always takes me too long to parse passive aggression in person, so I respond completely earnestly. This seems to confuse her without being rude, and she’s just vexed by me.

Actually, passive aggression in general makes me feel very neurodivergent.

I’ve got a dear friend who’s been struggling with suicidal ideation for years, and there are lots of reasons I don’t want him to, primarily that he’s a force of good in the world. Secondarily, he deserves to know joy and he can’t do that if he kills himself first (then there’s his goddaughter, his writing, getting to watch trump die, coming to visit me in Germany, his work is getting picked up more and more, apple fritters, blueberry picking, going on drives in his beat-to-shit old van, and a hundred other reasons). It’s getting to the age where even my terminally optimistic self starts to think that he deserves peace, but I can’t help thinking that therapeutic attention is the best solution (he was raised too catholic for that, unfortunately). He keeps talking to me and he doesn’t get too annoyed about it, so I’ll keep talking to him until one day, panicked, I can’t reach him, and the world will forever be worse.

Not globally, but on lemmy. I assumed that’s what you meant.

65% is my guess.

Northern German dialect

Weird question: I notice she pronounces the g in Hamburg with the ich-Laute, like Hamburch. I hear this all the time where I am, but we’re definitely not northern.

Does anyone know if that’s done everywhere in Germany or is it most commonly done in the north?

I work at a bakery. I would love to earn my regular hourly wage and deep clean everything that gets a cursory daily scrub, but they’d need to staff an additional person that day or have me come in overnight.

We’re a comparatively clean bakery, but it’s just not possible to maintain an environment that’s perfect for yeast to grow without also making it a perfect environment for everything else to grow perfectly as well.

They pay me €15/hour which feels like more than I actually need or would expect for the work I do, but I’m trying to work on that. Obviously I contribute more than €15/hour if that’s what they pay me, it’s just almost double what I’ve earned at similar jobs in the US and 2/3 of what I earned there at an insurance company analyzing contracts, so it seems wild to get that for customer service.

Well for me it’s simple, I’ve worked places where we had to destroy food and I just didn’t. I’m lucky enough that it’s always been pretty easy to find another food service job, and I’ve told any managers that I think food waste is the only true sin, and I’m willing to lose my job over it. I know not everyone can afford to walk away from a job, but all of my managers(in two countries) have thus far found a way to look the other way. Your middle manager almost certainly doesn’t want food to be wasted either, so if you tell them it’s a moral issue, that gives them plausible deniability for not destroying it.

Does it taste better? Almond flour is over three times the price of marzipan here, so it looks like it would be more expensive to make it myself, but I love marzipan and am down to pay more and put some work in for better marzipan.

I could also just see the prices being different elsewhere, though, given that I’m in Germany and marzipan is a much more common ingredient than almond flour here.

Amenorrhea and hyponatremia. I do also like orchidectomy, but I am less comfortable repeating it over and over than the others - it feels like it’ll be taken as a threat

Autistic and I don’t care, but I do listen and I try to do it well.