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Love the words. Once of my early positive impressions of lemmy was coming across longer form comments. It’s so hard to get thoughts across in tweet format especially when we’re all completely anonymous with potentially wildly different perspectives. I’m following your ideas here and I’m rarely opposed to experimentation. I have learned from experience that there’s more to successful implementation than is apparent before you start and even the best plans can’t account for real world testing.

It’s been a couple days now but I think that manipulation of automated processes is sort of what I was alluding to when I didn’t want to commit to an idea. People will figure it out and fuck with it.

I guess my approach is more about patience and subtle changes (outside of experimenting in small time limited areas). What we’re talking about would be a major change in the context of lemmy and it’s too complicated to predict the outcome of something like that. As a fun thought, there is some point in the history of reddit that would have set it onto the path it arrived at today. Maybe awards? The voting system? The composition of moderators? Changes should be done cautiously and gradually. Onboarding is a pressing problem, but I think it could be treated in isolation until a sites-wide solution is more obvious. Lemmy is doing great! Lemmy users are capable of self managing the issue of ideological influences across instances, even if it appears haphazard it seems to work, maybe, for now. Loads of problems to address outside of this as well.

I’m also a fan of sudden chaotic changes. I have a ‘be careful but also break it if you want’ thought process. I love the theory of evolution and I think as much as we want to be careful things are going to happen we don’t want and can’t predict and it can be fun to just throw a wrench in the motor and see where it takes us.

strategic user blocking helps, I dont like that problem either.

The key to every “killer app” on a new system, even ones that start out mimicking the old paradigm, is enabling something that couldn’t be done on the old system.

This makes me think of my biggest gripe with the social media I use and it’s the lack of feeling safe, and I don’t mean that I want to be sheltered or have content hidden from me. I’m tired of living in the giant melting pot.

I’m not sure. Maybe I’ll try to spend more time in this community, it doesn’t pop up on my main feed that much but I usually find the topics interesting. I think there are a lot of directions lemmy could go and I don’t want to commit to one idea yet. Categorizing sounds like a big effort even if it’s automated.

I think my user blocking has been effective since I don’t see content like that coming out of .ml. ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆ should be a day 1 block for new users.

I just checked and in the last year I haven’t had to block any instance except nsfw, which is surprising because I never see grad users in my feed. My lemmy experience has been more variable from low effort, snap judgement, or reddit-like comments coming out of .world.

I still haven’t done that but have noticed a lot of calls to do it. It’s not all bad on .ml, I’d never make it my home instance but it’s no where near lemmygrad levels of CCP loving tankie trash

Make good use of the community/user block feature and it cleans up well. It took me a couple times going back and forth but I’m done with reddit at this point, at least for general scrolling ‘all’ sort of content.

yes and no

Don’t forget to try sorting by comments instead of posts! I often forgot that button exists.

About 20 and growing. I also do it for my mental health. Social media isn’t a place I want to take too seriously so my blocks are about avoiding people who seem agitated or seeking to create or participate in conflict with other members.

I’m thinking about clearing out my blocks every year just to get a sense of the land again, maybe when I’m feeling better I’ll do that.

140 in 2 months sounds like a lot to me. Are you not blocking communities? That might be more efficient?

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Not really I’m more just presenting an alternate explanation. Don’t mistake me for holding strongly to this opinion, but I do feel like calling OP out as a narcissist or whatever is an unfair snap judgment. People can be different and that doesn’t make them bad most of the time.

It’s an explanation, those use words.

Not true. If you go through life being expected to act a certain way all the time that eventually takes a toll. OP is doing right by himself the same way everyone else does when they share things expecting they’ll get a narrow and specific reaction from people. If you want to throw around the n word that’s as good a place as any.

I think I’m a bit like you since I do that too. Everyone (even at work) knows that I don’t want to see baby pictures and I’m not excited about a baby. I don’t think much about having kids but parents usually really really love their kids immediately, even before they are born, and if they are close friend or family then I am ok vibing with that for their sake.

The only time I’ve actually felt positively about it is when my best friend told me they were having a baby. It took me a moment but I thought then felt that I was able to be happy because he was happy and his partner (who I also like) is happy, and then it took me a few days of thinking about it that part of me was also picking up on this excitement because I wonder what my best friends kid will be like. And it’s only because I care about him and his life a lot. I’m not close to my sister and have never felt those feelings before about babies/parents.

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As a millennial who wasn’t interested in computers these types of stories will haunt me my entire life

The forum I used to spend a lot of time on in my youth was incredibly active - comments all night every couple minutes. The regional areas where practically dead. What we need are thriving core communities not critical mass. I like not being bombarded by thoughtless and judgmental comments

I’d guess that 50-100 active users could make any community feel vibrant. I’ve noticed when I post in a smaller community it can get solid responses (fast replies from a dozen or so users), but they die out after a day or two and people need to be posting all the time to keep it up.

At this point I’ve blocked so many .world communities that I don’t see that as much. There are some users who I notice bring the reddit antagonism and I tend to block them too. If I come across a post that is full of reddit quips I just block the whole community. I guess I’ve blocked fewer .ml communities overall.