My mom is also passive aggressive, but I don’t think she realizes how bad it really is. She genuinely believes that she is operating in good faith, and is being kind or polite by not being direct.

But if you look past what she is saying, and listen to what she’s implying, it becomes very clear that she is extremely judgmental when others don’t live up to her impossible standards.

For context, I believe she has pretty good reason to have “come by it honestly”, as it were; Her father was in the Army, and spent a lot of her childhood flying Hueys in Vietnam, which left the kids with their born-and-raised Southern Baptist mother who holds a bachelor’s in Home Ec, and lived on base. It was pretty much drilled into her from the youngest age possible that keeping up appearances is absolutely crucial, and failing to do so or to care about doing so is a moral failing. She was basically trained by the Queen of passive aggression.

She fully believes she’s being considerate when offering use of her RV bathroom as an alternative to the bathroom in my aunt and uncle’s house. What’s wrong with that, you ask? Because the reason she considers that bathroom unsuitable is not because it doesn’t function properly, but because it doesn’t meet her standard of cleanliness.

She truly doesn’t understand that this single statement tells me everything I need to know about her opinion of the state of my living space. Also, considering that I’m entirely uninterested in someone’s judgment of me and/or my partner based on standards that are not possible for me to keep, it all but guaranteed that she will never be welcome in my home.

Because I know exactly what the result would be: More backhanded “kindness” in the form of unhelpful advice for disabled people written by non-disabled people, gifts of cleaning supplies, questions about my progress on tackling clutter, etc., etc…

The best way I’ve found to handle it is to take her implication, and state it bluntly. Hooooooooo boy, does it take the wind outta her sails when her polite facade is summarily ripped away mid conversation. She never expects it, because she starts these conversations with her own idea about how it will go. It’s incredibly satisfying to see the glimpse of sincerety as she realizes that the tools she uses to control her image are suddenly useless.

Now, I could rag on the mistakes of my parents until the cows come home, but just to be clear, I believe she is earnestly attempting kindness, and doesn’t realize what she’s doing. She was just held to impossible expectations by a strict, overwhelmed caregiver who was a poor role model because of their inappropriate priorities (among a long list of other things). It’s still hurtful behavior, and it still needs to stop, and I will continue calling her out on it, but I don’t blame her for it.

That being said, I refuse to pass this on. The passive aggressive lineage ends with me.

E: accidentally a word

Is it common? That depends on your context. Since your particular context includes an internet connection, literacy, and living in a situation with the means to reserve space for a child that isn’t home full-time, I feel pretty confident in my estimation that it’s probably not common.

Is it harmful? No. Honestly, I think it’s pretty sweet. My only advice is to not let it stray into forbidden territory, but you seem to already have a pretty good grasp of where the line is.

Ahh, that’s genuinely interesting, thanks!

That’s definitely part of my blind spot here. I don’t know of anywhere that uses a green cross for something other than a dispensary, but I also don’t know a lot of things , sooo¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Ok, so this might be an americanism, but the green cross says “cannabis dispensary” to me. At least around me, the medical marijuana industry is somewhat separated from the medical industry, and dispensaries are entirely different establishments from pharmacies. Pharmacies (and other medical establishments) use different symbols. If they were to use a cross to indicate a medical establishment, the red cross would be recognizable as a generalized symbol, but apparently it’s heavily protected by the Red Cross.

But that’s just my context, so I don’t have much of an answer beyond “this is what it means 'round these parts”

Edit: added info from below

I think this might be a “yes, but no” kind of thing.

Yes, these are test strips. Yes, they change color to indicate a reading. Yes, they use chemical reactions to cause that color change.

AFAIK: No, these aren’t for testing blood. No, these don’t seem to be for consumption by an electronic meter. And no, I don’t think this is what OP was asking about.

Like, there’s probably some good info, but not for this thread specifically :P

Source: Pulling it straight out of my ass, but it is informed by my limited experience with medical test equipment, and much less limited experience with electronics.

I mean, random NFC tags, I can understand. But, isn’t advising someone to avoid QR codes obsolete by now? It was a pretty worthwhile attack vector at one point, but nowadays most phones will ask “Do you want to <handle> <contents in full>?” before actually doing anything with it…

Although, now that I think about it, it is best practice to advise to the lowest common denominator… Sometimes I overestimate users’ ability to avoid doing stupid things…

Windows refuses to recognize anything except the first partition on any storage device that it classifies as “removable”, so this tracks. Just zero the partition table, and Windows will offer to format it like it wants on next plug.

Old enough to have used checks (barely), young enough to have access to a metric fuckload of free educational material online to cause me to side-eye the student loan industry before getting sucked into it.

Ya know, this thread has inspired me. I’m a sound engineer, and find myself yelling “check one two three four” in the michrophone to test it all the time. I’m gonna start reciting the digits of Pi instead, and then as I learn them, I’ll progressively advance how many numbers of Pi that I use in my everyday job :D

I work at a library, though. I should probably just go with poetry or Douglas Adams or something, but this makes me sound much more impressive

Catima - for saving arbitrary barcodes and stuff that are hard to integrate into other wallets. I keep my local library card in there, and it works wonderfully

Nonocross - fun little game that has zero frills and distractions. Also very responsive on their github to suggestions and improvements

Termux - when I need to get into things from afar, this is how I do it

Box, Box! - Formula 1 news, schedules, standings, etc

Coffee - Sometimes I want to keep the display awake, so this comes in handy

Had a similar moment, but refused to work on the basis of safety, and don’t regret it one bit. Installing speakers on poles for a rooftop bar 20 stories up, and we needed 6-foot ladders to reach the mount. Boss said do the thing, I said you can fuck all the way off until I’m in a harness. Boss didn’t want to wait for the harness that was already on its way, and did it himself.

He knew he’d be turbofucked if it took longer than his boss thought it would take because he didn’t think to bring a harness in the first place, and even more turbofucked if it came to light that he requested we work without it, so he just did it himself to save his own ass. It doesn’t matter if he survived, he was a stupid idiot for stepping one rung up on that ladder without a harness.

For reference, this is the same dude who said that driving 17 hours in a van to a job site was just the same as sitting on the couch at home, so we should feel lucky that we’re getting paid for it. He was not a smart man.

Yeah, if this isn’t possible, and it’s still in good enough condition to fix and fly, they disassemble the plane and ship it somewhere where it can be reassembled and fixed.

Very unlikely that it’s fixable, though. Only heard of a few cases where it wasn’t more economical to just write it off after a landing like that.

Another factor to consider is how much it’ll cost to actually pull that off, and if it’s not in a very accessible location (like, idk, fucking siberia or something), that adds to the cost of recovery.

If anyone wants to see this tunnel in all its glory, check out this video.

It’s really an awesome feat of engineering. I hope the repairs are swift.

Ctrl+Left Click, or Cmd+Left Click for Mac

As far as I’m concerned, not knowing the difference falls under the “not qualified” part of my earlier statement.

You happen to know what you’ve got, and what you’re doing? Go for it. More power to you.

Any shadow of doubt? Put the tools down, get someone who knows what they’re doing.

Also worth mentioning: if you fuck up the door trying to get into it,

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO FIX A GARAGE DOOR YOURSELF!

Light percussive maintenance to bend a panel back into shape is one thing, but never ever try to take one apart if you aren’t qualified. There are dangerous springs under tension that can and will kill you.

Get a professional